What even is the point?

Coach Simon

Self harming is not the answer, as you have already discovered. Why do you feel hated, one wonders? Make some friends! To be liked, generally, it helps to be more interestED than interestING. Listening is good for making friends: ask people questions about themselves and their opinions and listen to them without interruption, except for little comments that demonstrate that you're REALLY listening. It shows you are taking them seriously, as in respect and acceptance. Don't sit there thinking about what you will say, because that shows more interest in yourself than them. Little pauses demonstrate that you are thinking about what they have said anyway. You can ask them how they felt about what they have just told you, or other specific questions to show you have been listening and taking them seriously. Be open minded and try not to disagree with people. For example, if they like a band you hate, ask what it is they like about them, best track, etc. (avoid the word, “why” as it can sound challenging). You can always say you don't listen to them much but you will now or something. Asking for advice is also good. Genuinely, of course, & don't overdo it. Ditto information – we feel pleased to tell someone something interesting they did not know, such as what’s on in town, latest sports score, etc., so by showing interest in their opinion, knowledge, etc. you’ll get some good feelings from them. Smiling is a good sign of acceptance. A lot of eye contact can also be good. Remember, if you want to have a friend, you have to BE a friend, and the best way to impress someone is to be impressed by them! One thing you can do is always to ensure you have a straight back: sit, stand and walk tall (hips forward) and take reasonably long, confident strides when you walk: this has the “reverse psychology” effect of helping us to feel more confident. Once we have self respect and a sense of self worth, we tend to find that other people respect us more too. Good Luck!

Alfred

PLEASE, NEVER even '' just try'' it again... to hurt yourself or take your life- whatsoever!

Anonymous

I hope you re still doing okay. I can t really tell you how to fix it bc I don t really know how. But, I do know what that feels like, I know it sucks. But just pull through. I promise that someone cares about you, whether you know it or not. Sometimes people are just too scared to put themselves out there like that, to show that they truly care about someone and want to be their friend. You can do this.

B

Hell no. Please don't commit suicide. You can easily find someone that cares for you on a dating website. Chances are you aren't talking to your friends or family. Do so and you will not be alone. Get out and do stuff so you don't have gloomy thoughts like this.

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