Do you think she should give her money for compensation or no?

Anonymous

The mother. And she should sue the private detective and anyone involved in revealing her confidential information, as well as getting a restraining order against her psycho child, who obviously takes after her father.

Ranchmom1

There is virtually no chance an infant would go unadopted. If somehow this did happen, the mother does not owe the child anything.

helene

The daughter seems to have as great a sense of entitlement as her rapist father. Maybe she should ask him for money. If this were really happening, I'd advise the mother to get a restraining order on the daughter.

amy lynn

From a legal perspective, an adoption means that the mother gave up all rights AND ALL RESPONSIBILITY for the child. This means the mother owes the child nothing.

Ocimom

The mother doesn't owe her daughter a dime. At the time, she did the best thing she could do and it was not the mother's fault that the child was never adopted. The mother should go to the police and get a restraining order against the grown daughter.

Space Radish

Wait, do these people know who the father is? I mean, more rapes are committed by someone the victim knows, so the father's identity is probably known. Also, it's often hard to prove sex wasn't consensual, so he probably didn't even go to jail and get a criminal record, which means he's got a good chance of having a job. So How about he coughs up the cash to help his kid out, since the situation is basically his fault?

Tri-Harder

In this completely made up and unrealistic scenario, the daughter is being a self-centered @ss who needs to grow up, and the mother has a major lawsuit against the people who revealed her identity.

Parva

The mother. Even though I would not do this to a child, I would argue the mother was never obligated to have the child. It is not her responsibility to help that child now. If this person is struggling there are assistance programs that might help them get back on their feet. Maybe try to get medicaid and get any mental health assistance you need first.

Lita

The mother is right. She has every right to not want to give or to not give the child compensation. She doesn't owe the child anything.

nico

In this completely made up and unrealistic scenario, the daughter is being a self-centered @ss who needs to grow up, and the mother has a major lawsuit against the people who revealed her identity.

Exoplanet

Good story.

kitta

Since the adult "child' was never adopted, she would have retained her original birth certificate.Birth certificates are only sealed when there is an adoption, and then the child is issued a "new" amended birth certificate with a "new" name...the name of the adoptive parents. But in this scenario, none of that happened. So,.. It would have been pretty easy to find her biological mother. There was no legal adoption, so the laws that apply in an adoption would not apply here...at least as far as identity changes. States have different laws with regard to legal rights and responsibility when children are fostered but never adopted. I personally cannot understand a mother not having any compassion for a child in this situation, as an adult. We are not talking "compensation." It is a mother helping her child.. And I do know of situations like this.Children conceived in rape have not always been easy to "place." And, there are always some children who are not adopted, even if relinquished by the mother as infants.The mother may have intended for her child to be be adopted, but she would have been told that there was no guarantee of that happening.

Anna D

That's a super far-fetched story.

wendy

At anonymous, so you wouldn’t have any ethical moral over your own flesh and blood who was close to starvation and needed help? Even if they were conceived out of rape, it would still be your baby in the end and you will always be it’s mother. If your a rich millionaire you wouldn’t even think about helping your own kid out if you had way more than enough money to help him/her?

Pearl

i think the nnother has a right to decide whether she wants to give her nnoney or not, if the daughter wants to go to school that bad nnaybe she can get financial aid

LizB

"Well say she gives the baby up for adoption and no one ever adopts it and is stuck in foster care for the rest of its life until it is 18." Extremely unlikely to happen unless the baby has a lot of difficult medical needs. In the US there are currently 40 couples waiting for every infant placed for adoption, so a healthy newborn is pretty much guaranteed to find a forever home. But anyway.... "Who do you think is in the right? Mother or daughter?" The mother severed her parental rights, and therefore all responsibility. The child was conceived via a highly traumatic act, and the mother has no relationship with the child, so why should she be forced to turn over part of her earnings to a stranger? Besides, it's not the woman's fault her estranged offspring turned out to be useless in life, and why would the blame fall on her anyway? What about the man who violated another human in a horrific way and thrust his unwanted genetics upon her body? Maybe the girl is useless because her biological sire was a wretched human being.