How do i find my clit?

I understand the hooded ****. Ive tried using a mirror, pulling opening from the middle, the toppish, i see maybe a bump but also a slight little hole and it hurts when touched. ive used pillows/water which felt better than using just fingers. when my bf tried to like finger me or like rub down there it really hurt most of the time and only just some-times did it feel nice. maybe it was because his fingers/my stuff was too dry. but i dont know how to find it exactly?? when i look, previously like i said, i only see a hole and maybe a bump that can be painful to touch. even when rubbing without pulling it up or whatever i dont really feel anything but pain :/ should i talk to my doctor or something how do i "Fix" this??