Is it okay for a woman to go topless at a beach with her friends who are encouraging her to go, when her husband doesn't like the idea.?
Anonymous
"Okay" depends on a specific relationship. What is "okay" in one marriage is not "okay" in another. I go to topless beaches regularly. Topless beaches are like any other beaches. Certainly infantile men probably go for the peep show, but for the rest of us, no big deal. My husband might ask me not to go topless. He would never deliver a command.
Kentucky Fried Rat
She can go topless if she wants. You are her husband, not her owner
Zirp
Sure it is, at least here in the northern half of Europe
Barb Outhere
If this isn't something she would have thought to do on her own, wasn't usually comfortable doing, WHY is she allowing her friends to pressure her into it? That is very "High School" sort of behaviour. I suspect her Husband worries why his wife is more influenced by her friends than by his opinions, and why they want her to change. Hmmm?
david
yes
pit bulls bite
if she has pleasant hooters
Suzy Q
So where do you draw the line? If a woman shouldn't go topless (where appropriate) if her husband doesn't like the idea, should she also not wear a bikini if her husband doesn't like the idea of her baring her midriff? Should she not show her cleavage, her collarbones, her knees, her ankles, her hair, her face? Based on what ideas her husband likes, not her personal beliefs? You see, that may sound extreme, but it's all the same issue. It's all about the supposed 'crime' of being 'too attractive' to others unless you cover up. The rest is just haggling over the specific amount and location of permissable body parts.
Ross James
Her body. Her life. Her choice.
Blueberry
She should really only be getting topless for her husband to look at her, not other people. However, we can't control what other people do or their actions, we can only control our own actions. Ask yourself if this is a deal breaker for you or not, she enjoys other people's attention...
JazSinc
Bring your top along with you.
real estate guy
the wife (or husband) should try to respect the feelings of the other. Some things don't matter and some things matter alot. For example, if the wife doesn't want the husband to go to strip clubs, then the husband, out of respect for the wife, shouldn't go. In this case, I'm guessing the husband isn't going to the beach and he is afraid of what my happen. I would say the wife should respect his concerns. But I also trust my wife, so I wouldn't have a problem with it.
ronich69
I think it's ok but I'd be asking why the husband is so insecure and leaning towards controlling?
Oh Boy!
Yes, it is.
oldprof
No it's not OK. Marriage is about respect for each other. And if she fails to respect her husband's feelings, then she's on the way to a divorce. And what kind of friends are those who would encourage a woman to go topless? With friends like that I'd prefer my enemies, at least they don't pretend to be friends.